When Warren Buffett speaks, people listen.

He is, after all, one of the best investors the world has ever seen.

His quotes on investing are famous. 

But what does he say about living a good life?

I believe you become a better investor by copying more than just his investing techniques. You’ll benefit from following his wisdom and life skills as well.

Why is that? You won’t have much success as an investor if the rest of your life is a mess, because you won’t be able to focus. 

Apart from being an excellent investor, Warren Buffett is a wise man with nine decades of experience, and yes, he does have an opinion about how to live a good life.

I’ve collected seven of his most important snippets of wisdom that relate broadly to living life and not just to investing and making money. These seven pearls of wisdom have made an impact on my life.

Who knows…maybe they’ll change yours too. 

1. Choose Friends You Like and Admire

“Make some good friends, keep them for the rest of your life, but have them be people that you admire as well as like.”

This is the most important piece of advice Warren Buffett has given the Microsoft founder Bill Gates. They have been friends for around 25 years, and you might be surprised that it’s this piece of advice that Bill Gates highlighted when Warren Buffett turned 90, because at first glance it seems a bit trivial for such brilliant minds.

But before your eyes glaze over this, do yourself a favor: think a moment about who your friends are and where you know them from.

Some you might know from school.

Some lived in your neighbourhood.

Some you know from university.

Some of them were friends of friends or colleagues.

You’ve probably chosen most of your friends because they happened to be there.

Do you admire them? Do you really like them?

Think about them one after the other.

This little piece of advice to choose friends you like and admire is important, and if you think about it, it’s also quite different from how most people go about friendship.

When I did this little exercise, I discovered to my own horror that I have some friends who I would consider unkind, and even some friends who display behaviour I can’t approve of.

I just didn’t really think that someone else’s behaviour was my problem. But it is. 

“You will move in the direction of the people that you associate with. So it’s important to associate with people that are better than yourself. The friends you have will form you as you go through life,” Warren Buffett told Bill Gates. 

If this is true about friendship, imagine what he says about marriage… 

2. Marry the Right Person 

Marrying the right person will be the single most important decision you make in your life, Warren Buffett says.

It’ll determine your destiny.

Warren Buffett’s first wife was Susan Buffett, with whom he had three children and a marriage lasting three decades.

Today he is married to Astrid Menk, to whom Susan introduced him before she decided to move to California to pursue a singing career.

Warren and his first wife remained married and friendly until she died in 2004 …despite the fact that they both had separate partners.

Before his first wife, Warren Buffett dated a woman who was an emotional whirlwind. She later married one of Buffett’s friends – a marriage that ended bitterly.

If Warren Buffett had married a person less kind and stable than Susan Buffet, if he had entered into decades of marital struggles, would he have been able to make the impact that he has? Would he have been able to focus?

“Marry the right person. I’m serious about that. It will make more difference in your life. It will change your aspirations, all kinds of things,” he said at Berkshire’s annual meeting in 2009.

3. Protect Your Reputation 

Warren Buffett is all about avoiding losses and investing conscientiously.

Apparently, that’s also what he values in other spheres of his life. 

“It takes twenty years to build a reputation and five minutes to ruin it. If you think about that, you’ll do things differently,” he says. 

His investing style is about considering data and avoiding rash decisions and emotional investing.

When it comes to living a good life, his style is similar.

He’ll extend himself far to avoid letting anger destroy his reputation or important relationships. 

4. “You Can Always Tell Someone to Go to Hell Tomorrow”

This is something ABC Inc.’s CEO Tom Murphy told him more than 40 years ago, and according to Warren Buffett himself, it’s been one of the best pieces of advice he has received during his career.

“It’s such an easy way of putting it. You haven’t missed the opportunity. Just forget about it for a day. If you feel the same way tomorrow, tell them then — but don’t spout off in a moment of anger!” he has said in the book Getting There: A Book of Mentors. 

Don’t risk all your wins on an emotional spur-of-the-moment. Just wait. Postpone your anger.

Whenever I find myself getting caught up in an emotion, I’ll take a deep breath and say “Mañana”. 

5. Follow Your Inner Scorecard 

“The big question about how people behave is whether they follow an inner scorecard or an outer scorecard,” Buffett has famously said. 

What’s the difference?

If you follow an outer scorecard, you measure your success in things outside of your control, such as other people’s actions and opinions.

This could be striving for winning a prize, getting on the cover of a magazine, getting a raise or promotion – or even getting enough likes on social media.

Inner scorecard is about measuring your success by how you think you’ve done. Do you think you did a good job?

Can you be happy about it even if the boss doesn’t notice it?

I already navigated by an inner scorecard in my previous career as a journalist when I decided to stop worrying about front pages and nominations for awards and focus on the content of my news articles and the problems I helped disclose or solve. That was a reward in itself. 

6. Go to Bed Smarter Than When You Woke Up 

Learn something every single day. 

Warren Buffett reads about 500 pages a day. He says he spends 80 percent of his workday reading.

Why?

He says knowledge is compounding.

“That’s how knowledge works. It builds up, like compound interest.”

I couldn’t agree more.

Maybe 500 pages doesn’t fit your lifestyle with a full-time job and kids.

Then make it 10 pages or 20 pages. But learn and study something every day. Consistency is key. 

7. Invest in Yourself

Warren Buffett has framed a 100-dollar Dale Carnegie certificate in public speaking which hangs in his office.

He calls the course one of the best investments he’s made in his life.

He was afraid of speaking in front of people before taking the course. This is something you don’t notice today at all when he goes in front of big crowds or on TV. 

If you lack knowledge in a certain area, go get the knowledge. Improve, train, get better. Get a good teacher. 

There are only so many things you can learn from books. Courses – online or offline – will get you to the next level.

“By far the best investment you can make is in yourself,” Warren Buffett has said.

You are your most important asset. You earn the money and you make the investment decisions.

Honor that by upgrading your skills. 

You can upgrade your investing skill set this very minute by downloading  my free e-book Free Yourself here. 

To be a successful investor you have to avoid the natural human instinct to follow the herd.

When the stock market goes down, your natural tendency is going to be to want to sell, and when the stock market is going up, your natural tendency is going to be to want to buy.

In bubbles, you should be a seller, not a buyer. In busts, you should be a buyer.

You have to have the discipline to stomach the volatility of the stock market.

Here are five key ways to develop the strength to go against the herd. 

1. Be Financially Secure 

First of all, you have to have some savings.

You’ve got to feel comfortable that you have enough money in the bank that you don’t need what you have invested for many years to come.

Some people think it’s a shame not to invest every penny that they have. In their world, cash not invested is a waste. 

If that’s your thinking, I suggest you think about it this way instead: your cash savings are buying you something very valuable and specific, and that’s peace of mind and the ability to stomach market volatility. You should have at least two types of savings:

A. An emergency account for a car repair or a new fridge. This should be at least $5,000 that are always available.

B. A security savings of either three months’ salary or six months’ expenses. This should also be ready in cash. Apart from giving you peace of mind on the stock market, it will also make it easier for you to take some bold career moves and set boundaries at work. 

2. Don’t Leverage  

Don’t invest with borrowed money.

Most people know not to take an expensive bank loan and invest the money or speculate with the money. 

But there is a different way of borrowing money that is not so obvious to the eye. Many platforms let you invest with leverage – almost without you noticing it: it’s called a margin account. You should avoid this. You should never invest more than you have. 

Investing with leverage has destroyed many good investors, even good value investors who were peers of Warren Buffett.

Call your brokerage platform to make sure that you’re only investing your own money if you’re not sure.

Some more complex financial products contain leverage, but if you are just selling and buying stocks, you are safe. 

3. Don’t Get Spooked by the Market

Just because something goes down in value after you buy it, it doesn’t mean you’ve made an investing mistake.

Keep your focus on the long term prospect. 

The stock market moves up and down all the time.

In the short term it’s a voting machine, whereas in the long term it’s a weighing machine.

It’s affected by all kinds of events in the world, and few of these events have anything to do with the business of the company that you are invested in. This is just the nature of volatility. But don’t worry, if your company is sound and has some competitive advantages, the stock price will straighten itself out in the long run.

If it’s any consolation Warren Buffett has also invested in companies just to see the stock price drop further. One example is The Washington Post which he invested in during the 1970s. More than a year after he initially invested in the newspaper, the stock price was down 25 percent.

This investment later turned into a profitable one. Four decades later, Buffett exited the position (the original investment of $10 million) in a tax free swap worth more than $1 billion.

4. Research Your Companies  

Don’t buy a stock because someone in a podcast predicted high returns and a glorious future for the company.

Research the companies you invest in. Analyse it the way you would, if you were buying the entire company.

• Make sure it’s a business you understand. 
• Make sure you like the management.
• Make sure that the company has some kind of competitive advantage.
• Make sure the company doesn’t have too much debt. 

It’s a good idea to use some kind of checklist. You can borrow mine here.

5. Pay a Reasonable Price 

The price of the stock should be reasonable compared with the earnings of the company.

I usually say ‘buy it when it’s cheap’, but I fear that many people will think a stock is cheap if it has fallen from a recent high, and that isn’t necessarily the case.

You really have to look at the value in the company and compare the stock price to that.

Let’s go back to Washington Post for a moment. Warren Buffett had calculated that it was priced at 25 percent of the intrinsic value before investing in it. That’s like buying one dollar for 25 cents. That it fell to 20 cents on the dollar does not make the original investment bad. It means you might want to consider buying some more since it’s an even better investment now. 

What if they have no earnings? Don’t invest in it then.

Companies with no earnings or negative earnings are too risky to invest in.

How do you know if the price of the stock is reasonable? If you want to learn how Warren Buffett calculates the value of companies, you are welcome to download my free e-book here.

He began his career as a Gordon Gekko wannabe, but changed his mind and his life and became a value investor who models Warren Buffett.

Guy Spier wrote the book The Education of a Value Investor about the journey he went through as a human being and as an investor.

The book contains many interesting points about investing, but it’s much more than that. It’s also a personal development book, and as such it’s one of a kind, as it integrates it with investing.

As Guy Spier points out, everything is interconnected. His original motivation for changing his ways had been to boost his returns, but the decisions also led to a better life.

Here are the ten key points I took away from the book:   

1. Choose Your Environment Carefully

As Guy Spier writes:

“We like to think that we change our environment, but the truth is that it changes us.”

You have to carefully choose the right environment.

You must choose carefully who you work with, who you socialize with, and ideally you should choose to hang out with people who are better than you so you can become more like them.

You must also consider your physical surroundings. 

Spier has built an environment around him that suits both his restless personality (he has ADD) and the flawed human brain (more on that later):

He decided to move from New York to Zurich. He wanted to imitate the peaceful environment Warren Buffett has created in Omaha (he even considered moving to Omaha).

Spier realized that he needed to live in a location where he could think calmly and invest for the long term without the pressure of other people’s expectation. New York had become too much of a pressure cooker, in particular during the financial crisis.

“Boring is good. As an investor, that’s exactly what I want, because distraction is a real problem,” he explains in the book. 

He chose a neighborhood that was not too posh. He didn’t want to be near any influence that would make him envious, greedy and make him take bad investing decisions.

“Super rich settings are not ideal for me since they stimulate unhealthy appetites.”

He decided for an office ten minutes away from home.

“This is close enough to improve one’s quality of life, but far enough to establish a separation between work and home. For people like me who get obsessive about their jobs, it’s useful to have this separation.”

He carefully designed his office so there were few distractions. He set up a quiet room for reading and a busy room with the Bloomberg monitor that he finds very distractive.

He thought carefully about the pictures and the decoration. He placed a bronze bust of Warren Buffett’s partner Charlie Munger in his office to have him present in his mind during the investing process.

2. Model Your Heroes   

It’s a human instinct to copy the people around us.

You can use this instinct actively by consciously choosing to copy the best in the world. Choose a hero and ask yourself what they would have done in your situation.

The key is to be as precise as possible, picturing your hero in as much detail as you can.

Guy Spier chose Warren Buffett, and the process of modelling changed his life.

“It was as if I had tuned in to a different frequency. My behavior shifted, and I was no longer stuck.”

3. Show Genuine Interest in Your People and Write Thank-you Letters   

Guy Spier discovered that Warren Buffett was a Dale Carnegie fan, and he decided to read and follow the guidelines in Carnegie’s book How to Win Friends and Influence People.

He discovered that Warren Buffett not only compounds money but also goodwill and relationships. The main idea of the book is to show genuine interest in people and appeal to their self-interest.

Spier began approaching people with an attitude of curiosity, kindness and gratitude and discarded any agenda. As he writes: “When you have an agenda, people smell it, and this tends to put them on the defensive.”

He also decided to write three thank-you letters every day. He viewed every letter as an invitation for serendipity to strike. It was through one of these letters that he built a friendship with the famous investor Monish Pabrai. 

4. Tap Dance in Life 

In order to be a good investor, you need to build a calm and enjoyable life.  

“It’s hard to invest well if your non-investing life is out of whack, in chaos, or stunted.”

Spier discovered that he had taken a serious approach to life and investing. Inspired by Warren Buffett who says he tap dances to work, Spier decided he rather wanted a happy life and not necessarily the biggest fund.

“When you drop a stone in a calm pond, you see the ripples. Likewise in investing, if you want to see the big ideas, I need a peaceful and contented mind.”

The lifestyle changes meant taking more naps, traveling more and taking up new hobbies.

One of the new hobbies was bridge (Buffett plays bridge too). He discovered that bridge can help you hone your skill as an investor:

“If I were putting together a curriculum on value investing, bridge would undoubtedly be part of it,” Spier says. 

Playing bridge helped him become more adept at operating in uncertainty.

“They key, perhaps, is that many investments are acutely uncertain, but not as risky as they might first seem.”

Another game that hones your skill as an investor is chess. It improves your skills of analysis and pattern recognition. 

5. Respect the Limitations of Your Brain

The mind is ill-suited for the task of investing. When we invest, we presume that the rational part of our brain will make the decision, but the problem is that a sub-rational and more instinctive part of the brain takes the driver’s seat.

Your brain isn’t really built for the life that we live today. It’s built for the life we used to live thousands of years ago. When the brain sees a falling stock, it reacts as if it’s confronting a roaring lion.  

You really have to protect yourself from this part of your brain. For Guy Spier it meant protecting himself from the Bloomberg terminal and the noise of the market.

“The terminal delivers such a relentless flood of news and data into the investor’s brain that it’s hard to muster the self-discipline to turn off the spigot and concentrate on what matters most.”

For other people it might mean staying away from certain podcasts or social media. 

6. Stay Away From Debt 

Debt can interfere with your ability to act rationally, and it can make it hard for you to remain calm and clearheaded when stocks fall. 

Spier made a conscious decision never to live beyond his means. He avoids credit card debts, leasing cars and even a mortgage on his house.

“For an individual investor, debt can be disastrous, making it even harder to stay in the game – both financially and emotionally – when the market turns against you”.

7. Have Some Rules for Investing 

Before pilots take off, they have procedures, rules and checklists that they follow in order to make sure that the flight is safe and smooth.

Have you ever considered adopting rules and checklists for your investing practice? Guy Spier generously shares his:

• Stop checking the stock price
• If someone tries to sell you something, don’t buy it
• Don’t talk to management
• Gather investment research in the right order
• Only discuss investment ideas with people who have no axe to grind
• Never buy or sell stocks when the market is open
• If a stock tumbles, don’t sell it for two years
• Don’t talk about your current investments. 

If you want to read more about Guy Spier’s investing rules, you can go to the blog post where I described them in detail here.

8. Build Your Own Checklist  

Recall the investing mistakes you have made, work out why they happened and if there was something you should have noticed beforehand.

Create a checklist from that list, of things you must consider before you invest. This will help you avoid preventable mistakes.

The idea comes from Atul Gawande who wrote the bestseller The Checklist Manifesto: How to Get Things Right.

Where to begin? You are welcome to borrow my 12-point checklist and build from that. You can download it here. 

9. Keep Learning  

Spier never says this explicitly, but it’s written between the lines. He’s an avid reader and learner and the journey he underwent was mostly inspired by books, lectures and seminars.

Some of the books he mentions are:

The Intelligent Investor by Ben Graham

Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill

How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie

Buffett: The Making of an American Capitalist by Roger Lowenstein

Journey to the Ants by Bert Hölldobler and Edward O. Wilson

Thinking, Fast and Slow By Daniel Kahneman

Power vs. Force: The Hidden Determinants of Human Behavior by David Hawkins

The Black Swan: The Impact of the Highly Improbable by Nicholas Taleb

Influence: The Psychology of Persuasion by Robert Cialdini

– and many, many others.

He also went to a Tony Robbin’s seminar (Unleash the Power Within) and listened to a CD with a lecture by Charlie Munger called The 24 Standard Causes of Human Misjudgment. Of course, he also mentions Tedtalks and news articles.  

The point is that he spends plenty of time reading, studying and learning (in whatever shape it may be) and so should you, if you want to be a good investor. 

1o. Create a Group of Masters Around you   

You must create a mastermind group. 

The idea comes from the book Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill, and the concept is to find eight to ten professionals that you can share issues with confidentially, guided by a moderator.

One person gives a presentation of an investment idea, and the others subject it to clarifying questions so the idea opens up to examination.

Previously (in his former life), Spier was lucky to create a group of peers in New York that included the notorious investor Bill Ackman.

In his new life, he joins a mastermind group for a three-day retreat twice a year to discuss whatever comes up. 

“For me, meetings like these have been the single best accelerator of inner growth,” he says. 

Want to keep learning? You can learn to invest like Warren Buffett here. By entering your email, you become part of my e-mail list.  A couple of times a year, I arrange new mastermind groups that you could choose to join. If you can’t wait for that, you are welcome to join my free Facebook Group here.